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“When I ask someone to do a bicep curl, they can do it,” he says.
“But a pretty significant subset of the women who say they do Kegels, when I ask them to show me what they are doing, aren’t doing [the exercise] properly or can’t connect between the brain and those muscles.” To find the muscles you use to do Kegels, either insert a finger into the vagina and squeeze the surrounding muscles or stop the flow when urinating.
This theory concerns "(1) the behavioral changes that people make to attune their communication to their partner, and (2) the extent to which people perceive their partner as appropriately attuning to them." "Communication accommodation theorists focus on the patterns of convergence and divergence of communication behaviors, particularly as they relate to people’s goals for social approval, communication efficiency, and identity".
Some women sustain nerve injury during birth and can’t feel these muscles. Tarnay says there are even physical therapists who specialize in helping women perform Kegels properly.
Worrying about size and whether or not it changes over time is the wrong concern, O’Connor says.
Regardless of how long the vagina is, the area that is thought to be important for most women’s sexual response is the outer one-third. This typically occurs if the vagina is too short or tight or they have a prolapse, where the uterus, bladder, or other organs fall out of place, typically after childbirth. “There is such a wide range of normal, one can be completely assured that in the absence of prolapse, length has no impact on sexual satisfaction.” What may make a difference, Tarnay says, is what he calls the genital hiatus -- the vaginal opening.
The complaints he hears from his patients are typically after childbirth.