Never stop dating her
” The husband often looks at me with some puzzlement and typically says a version of either, “On her birthday”, or “We are together all the time. ”The sad reality is far too many couples allow the idea of weekly dates to slip into the category of “good things we should try to do if we can,” like getting an annual health exam.The truth is, a weekly date night is an absolute must for a healthy marriage.Whether your relationship is strong right now or very strained, your spouse probably knows you better than anyone else.They have been with you through many of the highs and lows.It may even help you to not think of this as a “date night”—for some people this creates expectations or a need to impress.Thinking of this weekly time as “hanging out with my best friend” may increase the likelihood of it happening!When we think of friendship, the glue that holds us together is the shared memories and experiences we’ve had together.Anything from a memorable concert to the time you were served burnt fast food becomes part of the lore in your relationship.
While some of this may be necessary in order to care for your kids, home, and careers, it often does very little to promote a healthy relationship.You may know your spouse is fun and you may know they are your friend, but sometimes in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we forget.Our marriage relationship becomes driven by all the routines of making life work: shopping for food, doing the dishes, getting kids ready for school, making sure homework is done, attending school events, (whose turn is it to clean the bathroom, anyway?Something about your mate sparked interest and excitement in you during your dating years (and no, it wasn’t just hormones).You fell in love with a person you loved being around. Those feelings you had when you first dated—they are still there!