Queer teen dating
I had a huge crush on my best friend, though I didn’t know I wasn’t straight at the time, and she eventually cut all ties with me because of it. This has been an Official Queer Chick Public Service Announcement.I don’t know how to try to date a girl or even come out. If we were having this conversation in person, I’d be speaking at an uncomfortably loud volume by now and you’d be taking a step back. You should go to it for your PTSD, but you should also definitely go to seek support in developing healthier conflict resolution and communication skills.One day you’ll look back on it with bliss and relief, because it was the choice that set you free into a world richer and more possible than you have yet imagined. I’ve dated and had sex with guys, but I don’t like it at all.I kiss a guy and want to freaking puke or punch them.Can’t I just keep gritting my teeth and escaping into queer Netflix at the end of the day?Am I really brave enough to cut ties with my husband and his family and probably some of our friends and the couch we picked out together? Maybe I can stay.” But in the end, I don’t think you’ll stay.Ending your marriage gives you a chance to look for love in your future, not your past.Eventually, you’ll meet a new woman, and she’ll fuck your heart up in a whole new way! You mentioned your conservative brand of religion in the same breath as your marriage, so I’m guessing you see it as another major obstacle to coming out.
But he’ll be happier in the long run than if you stay together and eventually grow to hate his guts.
I know all of my family would pretend I don’t exist, and I’m OK with that. I’m planning on returning to college in the fall as a junior (I took a three-year hiatus because I was raped and now have post-traumatic stress disorder). I don’t know how to be myself anymore and my “self“ is not straight at all. You mentioned wanting to punch people twice in your very short letter, and I know it was mostly hyperbolic, but I also think you kind of meant it?
I just want to be me and be with who I want to be with. How long has it been since I extolled the virtues of therapy in this column? I am a vehement believer in therapy—group, one-on-one, talk, EMDR, whatever seems most appealing to you—and in trying someone new if you don’t click with the first therapist you see, because everyone deserves, and most of us need, mental health support. And the details of why your friendship ended are fuzzy, but reading between the lines, it seems like maybe your unspoken attraction (and jealousy) manifested in hostility or passive-aggressiveness that hurt your friendship.
I’m starting with therapy rather than with coming out and dating, because being unwilling to express yourself effectively when you’re upset is likely to be a romantic hindrance.
Lesbians, sorry to stereotype, BUT IT’S EXTREMELY TRUE, fucking love talking about their feelings.